Are you paralyzed by fear and the conscious or subconscious ideas of change and the pain it brings? Are you depressed, addicted or living with personality disorders because you want them; more than change that it? Let’s find out and by doing so, lets ask some more tough questions, because we may just like Depression more than change. Is it treatable? Then why don’t you really treat it?
Wayne Dyer wrote a book, Excuses Be Gone, where he wanted to show people the many false associations we eventually make about life. A false belief is that depression is not treatable. Did you know Borderline Personality Disorder or BPD as it is well known is up to 80 percent more easily treatable than depression?? So why are you stuck.
Worldwide programs such as AA may be right, that is is our own ego defence mechanisms that keep us stuck. We isolate, withdraw, avoid, negate and shy away from change like it was a plague. Yet, we are happy to live with a plague within us. We are happy to stay stuck, ill, down, depressed. How we do is with excuses. How we somehow like Depression more than change is part mystery and part science.
Here are the top 5 excuses:
1. I’ve tried everything and it hasn’t worked?
2. Because of the past, I guess I have to live with it now.
3. My X,Y or Z is completely unique to me because….
4. No one understands my unique problems…and “doctors or they” made it worse.
5. Life is unfair, and unkind. The world out there is a mess, so what choice do I have.
The truth is people will eagerly sit around talking about their problems for a life time, rather than attempt real change. The fear of failure is at the root of the issue, along with the defence mechanisms of black and white or all or nothing thinking. You can read every self help book in the world, you can take your pills or keep trying small things. But half measures wont get you anywhere, says the bog book of AA. And, they appear to be 100 percent correct. Reconsider if you’re avoidant, apathetic and lost in the story you’re telling yourself. Then get up, rise up, dream again and get well. How do we know it works? The research shows it does. Many of us tend to like Depression more than change. A bazillion cases of depression, anxiety, low self esteem, eating and personality disorders have been flipped on their heads – and in shorter spaces of time than you may think!
But you’ll have to get out of the excuses and the comfort zones and all your BS!! You are enemy staring back at yourself in the mirror as the great sages, philosophers and psychologists of this century have guaranteed us. IF this is so, you WILL need to make the changes. Everyone on this earth is here to contribute. You will either be contributing in your life or you will be in pain. There is no staying successfully stuck. That’s it. That’s the research.
Ray Stedman gives us the example of this from Biblical times.
When Jesus saw him and knew he had been lying there a long time, he said to him, “Do you want to be healed?” (John 5:6 RSV)
What a strange question to ask of a man who had been sick for 38 years! “Do you want to be healed? But Jesus never asked a foolish question in his life. Obviously it was important for this man to answer (at least to himself) the question, “Do I want to be healed?” I know many people today who do not want to be healed. They do not want to receive divine help in their problems. They do not want to be helped out of their weakness. They love their weakness, their helplessness. They are always craving the attention of others through their helplessness. They sometimes flee assuming responsibility for their own lives. I have even seen people turn their backs on a way of deliverance they knew would work because they did not want to be healed.
The good news is that this is simply a false association of your little mind. It is a cognitive disassociation from the truth of life in that we can be happy, well, successful, healed and at peace when we choose it. The brain is just an organ, like any other in your body. IT can easily be rewired over time. You can learn more about being stuck in fight or flight mode on our websites. The work you need to do is get out of your million year old lizard brain and into your prefrontal cortex. Your willingness, together with the right professional therapy – you will become well.
For more information on whether we like Depression more than change, or for help with addictions, depression, anxiety and other disorders, get in touch with us today. Change the way you live, work and thrive. Come heal with us today.