The English word personality is derived from the Latin word for “mask.” Simply put, our personality is the mask we wear. Taking off that mask, trying to get behind the mask, is the work of the spiritual journey and of Healing the personality. A mark of spiritual growth is when we stop polishing the mask and instead start working on our character.
At some point in life, we are all going to undoubtedly need a paradigm shift, a shift from the first half of life to the second half of life. A paradigm shift to love which is the transformation to your Sacred Self; away from fear that the defensive mind creates to protect you from monsters and dragons. Sooner or later, there will be a necessary letting go. We will have to let go of everything that is false, everything that is unreal, and we will need to move back towards authenticity, towards what people call your higher self and what we call your sacred self. This work could change your life. Top to bottom. Let’s get into it thoroughly.
Stress and trauma are part of everyone’s life. The way our lives are socially constructed means that we need to develop defence mechanisms, and defence is the first act of war upon ourselves and the way we see the world. We are born into a world that is increasing in momentum, in pace with time and space, the most valuable of commodities. We grow up isolated, alone, and afraid. Our parents are stressed, and they are stressed because their parents were stressed. They move into a world that requires their time and their space. We grow up with one or two parents who are stressed. They move into a world that requires their time and space. What we need to understand is that everyone was stressed and traumatized at some point.
Who am I? Not the body, because it is decaying; not the mind, because the brain will decay with the body; not the personality, nor the emotions, for these also will vanish with death.
Ramana Maharashi
Healing the personality requires us to get beyond the trauma, past failures, hurts and events and integrate them into our lives as a healthy part of who we are today. We cant hide them, block or banish the parts of us that hurt. We have to love them well with a new sense of awareness and acceptance. Then new action and behaviours in our lives. It is all linked and enmeshed pretty much in line with the law of entanglement. What happened once is happening now in some way, shape or form. People need to own this, then take action to transcend it. We heal the personality by realising we are not the personality! We are far, far more than that and this bigger picture of who we are is what we call our Sacred Selves.
So, can you change your personality? Yes….In fact it is a necessary part of being human. What has to change? Everything! Our program the Paradigm Process used at Center for Healing and Life Transformation, our private inpatient treatment centre, targets the personality head on with this new conscious awarness. It allows us to flower and unfold and to drop the many masks we wear without even realising it.
Designed for survival
Almost all the major psychological theories that have been developed in science point to a survival versus thrive mind. An ego nature versus a spiritual one. Life events and how we respond to them shape this matrix as we develop and grow. We all experience necessary suffering or trauma. It is the nature of being human. We experience loss, grief, and pain.
Some of us start to believe we are this personality. We start to believe that the outer world we experience with the 5 senses is more real than the inner world we experience in the extrasensory dimension of our being. We believe beyond a doubt that is who we are. But the truth always wills out. The truth or reality cannot be built on deception or lies. The feelings we have deep within start to suggest to us that we should be someone else, that we should achieve more. It states that we should be happier. Personality becomes our personal reality for a time. The program of the personality.
The mind likes to run on satisfying our lower needs. The call of our higher spiritual needs for growth and contribution gets louder as we develop and evolve. As you think so shall you be means that our thinking equals our emotional states that we reaffirm over and over again until we can no longer tolerate the past in our present reality. When living in survival we chemically cannot create anywhere near to our full potential.
The mind is based on survival. When we are being chased by a saber-toothed tiger we don’t have any time to start thinking about growth and life contribution. We think about how we are going to survive for the next 5 minutes and all our attention goes there. Where attention goes, neural energy flows, and neural connections grow. Survival paradoxically takes the lowest frequency of consciousness… There is no gratitude, imagination, or anything like that here. How we think and feel creates our steady state of being.
We thrive on habits, past experience. We need to break these traits of being who we think we are. Our personalities are a combination of all the qualities and characteristics that helped develop our character and our traits. Our interests, our self-conception, and our drives. Our brains are hardwired for fear. Everything that we experience only through the five senses comes through and is scanned primarily for fear. Our brains are hardwired for survival.
What is the personality?
Personality Development – personality refers to the blend of enduring thoughts, feelings, perceptions, behaviors, traits, emotional patterns, and abilities that make up a person’s response to the events of their life. Genetics, parenting and environment, societal variables all make up the Personality we one day come to wear. Most of these personality traits fall into five basic categories of personality:
- Openness: Level of creativeness and responsiveness to change
2. Conscientiousness: Level of organization and attention to detail
3. Extraversion: Level of socialness and emotional expressiveness
4. Agreeableness: Level of interest in others and cooperativeness
5. Neuroticism: Level of emotional stability and moodiness
10 step program to getting your life back
The Paradigm Process offers you a 10-step program to heal your life. Backed by scientific evidence we have accumulated from real case studies since 2012, we have developed a way to overcome whatever holds you back. How we found it was profoundly interesting and was the breakthrough we needed for seekers – people looking to actualize their full potential. We delved into psychology, dipped into philosophy, and studied all the religions around the world. We began to understand how the brain controls the body and how emotions, memory, imagination, and potential are all linked.
Poetry is not a turning loose of emotion, but an escape from emotion; it is not the expression of personality, but an escape from personality. But, of course, only those who have personality and emotions know what it means to want to escape from these things.
T.S.Elliot
We then started applying and testing all the principles of healing and life transformation that we discovered and began removing what didn’t seem to help cause effective change. The Paradigm Process helped us at our inpatient treatment center double the speed of healing in the people we were helping. People from all over the world, suffering from all sorts of different emotional, psychological, and sometimes physical problems took part. What we found through the work and research was incredible.
Lose your personality and create a new one
the call message I would like to offer you is in this that you are not your personality. People who start believing that they are their personalities develop a false personal reality. Sooner or later all that is false must fall and crash to the ground. Understanding who you really are is your whole life’s work and indeed it is the way out of all personality disorders including all unnecessary suffering and pain. You can’t heal your life when you go beyond the boundaries of your personality.
Mark’s work takes you on that journey at 1000 miles per hour with no holds barred. The fearful parts of the personality are easily dissolved and integrated with higher and more powerful energies within us. Miracles are beyond the mind and the personality and everyone should live a miraculous life. No exceptions. All you need to realise is who you really are. Mark L Lockwood says that “That is the spiritual awakening that is sweeping across the world right now. People are waking up from their nightmares into the dream of life and it seems that it took a mental health crisis and maybe an epidemic or two to get us to wake up, but it’s happening on an unprecedented scale globally right now and it’s wonderful!”
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